It sometimes gets assumed that it is easy to seduce a man and in many ways, it kind of is. Still, there is an art to seduction that not every woman knows about. When you do know the art behind seducing a man, then you will probably look back on when you did not know much and think about how silly it was to worry about it.
I often hear from panicked wives whose husband has just announced that he wants a separation. Since my blog is about saving marriages and avoiding divorce, the wives that I hear from are strongly opposed to allowing the separation to actually take place.
Many ask me what they can do in response to their husband’s insistence that they separate. I heard from a wife who said: “my husband and I have been struggling with our marriage for about four months. He lost his job and is now underemployed. We’ve had to change our lifestyle and this has caused a lot of stress. All along, he’s made it clear that he doesn’t think I’ve been supportive enough. I’ve tried to be, but it’s been hard on me and the kids not knowing if we’ll be able to keep our house or stay in the same school district. Because of all the worry and the fighting, our marriage took a hit. I admit and take responsibility for my part in that. But I don’t think that this should have to mean the end of my marriage. Last night, he told me that we should separate. He said he’d been looking at rooms to rent. I don’t know what he’s thinking because we can barely afford our own house, let alone another room. So now not only do I have to worry about my marriage, but I must worry about how I’ll survive financially on my own should he move forward with a separation and eventually a divorce. What can I do right now when I absolutely do not want a separation?”
Before I answer this question, I have to tell you that I am definitely not an attorney. I could not and did not advice the wife on any legal issues. She was not even sure if her husband was talking about a legal separation or just meant moving out of the house for a while. But, I could offer her some tips on how to act and respond to make the separation either less likely or shorter lived. I will share that with you now.
Find Out What He’s Really Wanting To Accomplish (Or Escape) Through The Separation: The wife wasn’t sure what the husband’s main criteria for wanting the separation truly was. She wasn’t sure if he was just trying to escape the fighting, didn’t want the pressure of listening to his family’s worries, or was trying to get back at or punish the wife for her perceived lack of support.
I felt that it would be worthwhile to try to determine the root cause of this. Because if she could determine what her husband was trying to escape, and she could then successfully address or solve this issue, she might avoid the separation all together.
For example, if the husband was sick of the fighting, she might vow that they both communicate better to avoid the hurtful fights. She could take the initiative for counseling or at least find some way to help or educating herself on how to offer more support.
Or, if her husband was responding to low self esteem and trying to escape his family’s worries because his underemployment made him feel terrible about himself, she might spend some time building him up and stressing how they still had each other, which is what really mattered. The key here is to try to ease the tension and lighten the load without making it appear that you are only doing this because you don’t want for him to leave or to pursue the separation.
Offering Alternatives To An Actual Marital Or Trial Separation: If the wife tried the above suggestions and the husband still wasn’t receptive, she might offer to give him his own space in their home. If he wasn’t receptive to a separation with him still living at home, then she herself could offer to go and stay with family for a little while so her husband could sort some things out without having to pay for a room in someone else’s house.
I know that leaving your home probably doesn’t sound all that great, but doing so is better than letting him leave and then worrying about whether he will ever come back. If you are the one who leaves, you can control the duration of the separation (at least initially) because you can simply attempt to come home when you think the time is right.
When Nothing Works And Your Husband Insists That You Can Accept A Separation Or Be Served With Divorce Papers: Sometimes, you try to make every compromise and you patiently try to reason with your husband and he just isn’t having any of it. For whatever reason, he’s just not going to be happy until you agree to the separation. (This was the case with me.) Some husbands will even go so far as to tell you that you can chose between a separation or a divorce.
When this happens, there comes a point where it’s better to stop trying to fight him. Once he’s made it clear that he’s not going to change his mind and the separation is absolutely going to happen, then you need to stop trying to prevent the separation and start setting up a reconciliation.
What I mean by this is that there comes a time when it’s clear that you can’t stop him from moving out or from pursuing a separation, so you are better off being agreeable so that you can continue to have access to him during the separation.
At this point, your focus becomes improving your relationship while you are apart. Because if you can ensure that he has positive memories of you while he is gone and he knows that you are trying to help him through his struggles, he will think of you favorably and want to see more of you. This make a reconciliation much more likely and this access will allow you to slowly begin to rebuild your relationship with an eye on rebuilding your marriage. Because the worst thing that you can do is to have him leave in a huff and then to spend your separation fighting so that things never get better, and that eventually, things will get so bad that he pursues a divorce.
Instead, you want to make sure that things are as pleasant as they can possibly be so that when he comes to see the kids are wants to interact with you, things just continue to get better and better until you are both receptive to saving your marriage and ending the separation.
Unfortunately, I did not understand these principles when my own husband insisted on a separation. This made getting back together much more difficult. We did eventually save our marriage but not until I completely abandoned my old ineffective strategy and came up with a new one. If it helps, you can read about what actually worked on the saving my marriage blog.
That’s right. Women find a deep voice sexy because it has a warm quality and sounds confident. It stirs something inside of us, without a doubt.
The last time you heard your voice on voicemail, an answering machine or some other form of recording equipment, were you impressed? Remember, how she hears your voice is exactly what you hear on the recording, not the sound you hear in your head. So judge your speaking voice accordingly.
If you talk through your nose or you sound wimpy, whiny, gruff, boring, too young, too old, too loud or too soft, she is not going to find you quite as attractive as she will if you discover your ‘real’ voice – a voice that begins in your chest cavity and resonates as you speak. George Clooney has it and so does James Earl Jones. Vin Diesel has it as well as Peter Coyote. When those men speak, women take notice.
You have a better voice inside of you. It is your real or true voice and it begins in your chest. Most people, unfortunately, are not using that particular resonator when they speak. Instead, they use their other 4 resonators, relying heavily on their throat and voice box to do most of the work when they talk.
When you add your chest cavity to your other resonators, however, you will find that your real voice sounds deeper, richer and more mature. In addition, you will be able to increase your volume without shouting. This is called projection and it is only possible if you are powering your voice by means of your chest. Anything else is called shouting.
If you care about the image you project, bear in mind that 37% of that image is attributed to your speaking voice. And, over the phone where there is no visual, your voice is the image you project – the one you hearing on your voicemail, not the one you hear in your head.
The benefits of voice training can change your life in ways you cannot imagine but one of the most important benefits is that you will project confidence when you approach that woman you are hoping to impress. A velvety smooth voice can do just that!
The recent downside in the economy has affected people in so many ways aside from the obvious impact it made on their sources of livelihood or employment.
There is a growing trend among spouses needing to work in another state or even abroad to make ends meet and the same holds true for other people living together or involved in relationships. Such situations would more often than not – lead to tension, stress, and cracks in their relationships.
But one of the most pressing concerns in long distance relationships looming over the heads of the partner who gets left behind is the specter of infidelity.
Long distance relationships and infidelity are not necessarily synonymous entities, but the possibility of cheating appears to be higher in long distance relationships than any other for the obvious reason of physical separation between partners for longer periods of time.
Suspicions of infidelity arising in a long distance relationship can leave a partner feeling confused, and oftentimes utterly helpless about the situation.
Is she cheating on me…. is he sleeping with someone else right now… such questions that plague the minds of spouses who gets left behind.
They don’t need to be in this desperate situation much longer as there are ways to identify the signs of cheating in long distance relationships and confirm or refute their suspicions of their partner’s infidelity – and finally have peace of mind.
Types of Infidelity in Long Distance Relationships
Before delving on how to detect the signs of cheating in long distance relationships, you need to first understand the types of infidelity in such situations.
Knowing so would help you identify the problem and probably pinpoint the real root cause and the reason behind why your lover is cheating in the first place – so you can take action accordingly.
* Physical Infidelity
It’s a basic fact that many men and women like some variety in their sex life. Some harbor sexual fantasies that they are afraid to open up to their lovers or cannot do so because of their current physical separation.
Giving in to these sexual cravings, these men or women would seek other means to satiate this need while away from their partners. This can be likened to food where cravings and hunger pangs would never go away unless sated.
In such cases, you will need to understand that physical infidelity is usually limited to simple satisfaction of carnal desires and would not take precedence over their love for family and their life partners.
The problem however is that physical infidelity can eventually lead to a different level beyond the physical that can be irreparable if left unchecked – which will often lead to permanent separation or divorce.
* Emotional Infidelity
Emotional infidelity is physical infidelity in reverse – it starts with satisfying the emotional needs before it evolves into the physical. Being in a close and intimate emotional relationship with another while away from their partners technically does not break any vows or commitment they may have as it usually lacks any physical relationships at first.
However, such relationships would lead a person to share more personal aspects of their lives with the other person and this will eventually lead to physical infidelity and destruction of the relationship.
Signs of Cheating Your should be Watching Out For
There are several potential signs of cheating and infidelity in a long distance relationship but it would depend on the nature of the people involved.
Communicating with your long distance partner would be your primary tool for detecting and identifying these signs – in their manner of speech, their lack or changes in how they communicate, what they talk about when they’re with their partners and their overall attitude towards them.
* How Your Partner Speaks to You
Speech experts can detect dishonesty in how a person would emphasize certain sentences or particular words.
Honest persons would usually argue in their defense if you accuse them of infidelity but a liar on the other hand would usually disregard this or downplay them with submissive words.
Another sign would be changes in the frequency or how often they would talk with you on the phone and how changes in how long these talks would last.
They would often resort to conflicting reasons such as being busy or they really don’t like talking on the phone at all and other things they can think of.
* How Your Partner Seems to Have Disappearing Acts
There may be instances where your long distance partner seems to disappear or be unaccounted for several hours or even days, and then usually coming up with strange alibis that would later become even stranger or more unbelievable as these “lapses” in time become more often.
* How Your Partner’s Attitude towards You Seems to Change
During the first periods of long distance relationship, people are often eager to talk or communicate with their partners through any means available.
Lovers at this stage would often talk to each other whenever it is possible and would take as much time as possible. Changes in this initial attitude can be a sign that something is amiss.
His or her interest in knowing about your activities, particularly the small and trivial ones, would slowly decline.
It would take them a longer time to respond to emails or replying to text messages.
When they’re back at home they would often appear distant or preoccupied and would rather go out with friends that stay home with you.
* How Your Partner Talks about Other Men or Women
A cheating partner would still seek and try very hard to maintain your trust in them.
One way they will do this is to talk about their exes and their past problems with them, people of the opposite sex they meet while away, and new friends they gain – in an attempt to gain your trust with this sudden “openness”.
How to Confirm that Your Long Distance Partner is Cheating on You
Short of hiring a private detective to confirm your suspicions, there are other ways to confirm and know if your long distance partner is cheating on you or not.
Communication is again the best tool next to body language in knowing whether they are hiding something from you.
Rather than bombarding or asking them a series of questions that seems interrogative or accusatory, you can simply ask them what they did while they were away – and observe and listen carefully as to how they will carry the conversation.
Liars would often fluctuate in their speech, speaking either slowly or too fast and would often take time to respond to seemingly basic questions. Don’t make it too obvious that you are trying to catch them with trick questions.
You could also talk about or make up a story about a certain friend who caught his or her lover cheating and observe how they will react – and be uncomfortable – with the story.
Just pay attention to every detail in their speech, their mood, and the words they use and he or she will expose themselves in due time.
What’s Next?
If you are separated from your partner in a long distance relationship for whatever reason, you have a greater chance that he or she is cheating on you.
Many so-called experts would advice that such relationships would not work out or survive.
True, having a long distance relationship can be very difficult and would put your relationship or union at risk, but the final outcome will always depend on you.
What you do after detecting the signs of cheating, and confirming that it is so, would depend on whether you want to end your relationship – or make the necessary steps to prevent such end from happening.
The year was 1953, but I can’t say that I was aware of the release of the holiday gem “I Fell Out of a Christmas Tree” by 9-year old Rita Faye Wilson. My parents didn’t have a lot of Christmas music back in those days, but this song seemed to show up each year at our house right before the holidays.
It is probably still floating around somewhere on a 78 vinyl record. For those who are too young to know, that was the rpm of some records back in the old days.
The tune was all about a little girl who arrived on Christmas day by falling out of a Christmas tree; there was no stork, she was not left in a basket on a porch. The last line of the song goes, “If it wasn’t for Christmas there wouldn’t be no me.”
Little Girls Want Strange Things
The same year that one girl was singing about falling out of a tree, another was begging for something odd in the tune “I Want a Hippopotamus for Christmas.” I don’t know if she got a letter from Santa to confirm, but Gayla Peevey actually got her wish. The hippo was donated to the local zoo after being presented to her.
Three Furry Singers
Every young child wanted to be good in order to get something special from Santa, so that is probably why “I’m Getting Nuttin’ for Christmas” was played so often in the old days.
Alvin, Simon, and Theodore followed that up with “All I Want for Christmas is My Two Front Teeth.” Why did chipmunks always sing Christmas songs?
There has been a definite change in what songs are popular. In the 1960′s, Alvin and the other chipmunks were considered musical stars as Alvin kept saying, ‘I want a hula hoop’ from “Christmas Don’t Be Late.” This kind of song might not be successful today, but back at its release it became the number one song in America.
Country Christmas Songs
The country song “Grandma Got Run Over by a Reindeer” is probably one of my favorite funny Christmas songs in the last several years. I grew up in the country, so I am able to appreciate the humor and country accent of this tune. A letter from Santa telling his arrival time might have saved poor old grandma.
Along similar lines of country, you have to give Jeff Foxworthy some credit for his “Redneck 12 Days of Christmas.” Then there’s Jeff’s buddy Bill Engvall giving his “Here’s Your Sign Christmas.”
All these songs are still good ones for the kids. They serve to let them know that Santa has a sense of humor, and that he is still delivering the presents to those that are good. When they get letters from Santa, it makes them happy and excited. They might even want to sing along with Alvin and the Chipmunks.
Traditional Tunes
Let’s not forget the traditional tunes we hear from one Christmas to the next. These include:
* Silent Night
* Away in a Manger
* Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer
* Oh Christmas Tree
* Oh Holy Night
* I Saw Mommy Kissing Santa Claus
* Winter Wonderland
* Joy to the World
* Oh Come All Ye Faithful
* The First Noel
And the list continues. In addition to receiving letters from Santa, kids also enjoy a holiday get together so that family and friends can all join in and sing the traditional tunes of the Christmas holiday. Christmas just isn’t the same without the music to go along with the celebration of the season. Merry Christmas to all, and to all a good night!
The problems consist in rarity with the inability for insurers to foot the bill. It is more costly for one to use one’s mental health benefits, a 50 percent co-payment to see an outpatient mental health provider, as opposed to typically 20 percent co-payment in order to see a dermatologist or a heart specialist.[i] This is what economists call demand-side restraints, and we call it discrimination.
I often hear from couples for which trust is a huge issue. Usually, I hear from more wives than husbands on this topic but it’s clear that a trust is a large issue in many struggling marriages. Sometimes, the person writing has valid reasons to have trust issues. And other times, they are reacting from past relationships which have nothing to do with the trustworthiness of their spouse.
I heard from a wife on my save my marriage blog who said: “I always feel like I can’t really trust my husband. He always tells little white lies and he hides little things. When I call him on it, he says that he gets so sick of feeling like I’m always trying to trip him up. He says I act like his mother rather than his wife. He says my nature is just to be suspicious and that no matter how he acts, I will find a reason not to trust him. I admit that my first husband cheated on me and so I am always suspicious of my husband. But honestly, if I wouldn’t catch him in lies, then I could back off a little. But every time I find out about his little untruths, it makes me feel like I need to watch him even more closely. This is really hurting my marriage. My husband has started avoiding me and calling me a nag. I don’t want to let my suspicions ruin my marriage. But I can’t help having them when I catch him in lies. I feel like if things don’t change, our marriage is just not going to make it. What can or should I do?”
This wasn’t an easy situation for either spouse. The wife had already been damaged by a man who wasn’t trustworthy. So she was overly sensitive to any untruth. And the husband resented this. But I strongly felt that there was a compromise that was possible, which I’ll discuss now.
Never Underestimate The Importance Of Trust In Your Marriage, Even If Your Spouse Doesn’t Get It: The wife sometimes felt guilty about placing such a huge emphasis on trust. But there was no need to apologize for this. Trust is vital in any important relationship, but it is essential to a healthy marriage.
You may try to tell yourself that you’re being too sensitive or that complete trust really doesn’t matter. But, deep in your heart, even when you try your best to turn a blind eye, you will likely always have those nagging feelings that never let you rest. That’s why it’s so important to come up with a compromise with which you can both be comfortable. I know it’s hurtful to have your spouse paint you as a nag, but the importance of trust shouldn’t be underestimated. And, if it’s important to you, it should also be important to your spouse.
Balancing Your Need For The Absolute Truth With His Need For Breathing Room: A huge problem that the wife faced was that every time she brought up trust issues because of her husband’s little white lies, he would pretty much mutter “here we go again” and just start to tune her out. He would then paint her as a paranoid nag, which would make her wonder what he was hiding.
It was important to break this cycle. my suggestion would be that the next time the wife caught the husband in an untruth, she might say something like: “honey, what you’re telling me just isn’t true. I’m not sure why you feel the need to hide things from me or to not tell me everything, but complete truth is so important to me and to our marriage that I’m going to ask you to commit to working on this with me. I know that part of the reason that you are so secretive is because of my own suspicious nature. And, I take full responsibility for that and I am committing to being more aware of it. At the same time, I don’t think I would be as suspicious if I knew that you were telling me the truth about even the little, seemingly unimportant things. Can I count on you to try to do better? I realize that my past is affecting our marriage. But I think if I could count of you to always tell me the truth, this side of me would not be as pronounced because it wouldn’t need to be.”
What Happens If You Put Your Cards On The Table And You Still Feel That You Can’t Trust Him?: The wife said she would try this approach, but she didn’t have a lot of faith that it was going to work. She said it was just part of her husband’s personality to always lie, even about tiny little things like what he had for lunch. This always made her think that he was trying to hide other, larger things.
If this is the case and none of your efforts work, then I would suggest counseling or at the very least for the wife to try to uncover what underlying issues might be contributing to the husband’s need to lie. Was there an underlying major problem between them that made him feel as if he needed to hide things from his wife? Did he have intimacy issues which contributed to him feeling as though he had to keep things to himself? Did he resent his wife’s suspicious nature and therefore lied in a passive aggressive attempt to punish her? These are just some possibilities. But sometimes, if the underlying issues aren’t solved, the husband will keep right on lying simply because he’s acting out of something rather than a lack of honesty.
No matter what was the cause of this lack of trust, it was important that the couple address it. Because continuing to distrust your spouse leads to resentment, doubt, and unhappiness. And that is no way to live your life and to conduct your marriage.
Trust was just one of the issues that I brushed under the rug when my husband and I were having problems and it came back to haunt me. If I had it to do over again, I would have dealt with this issue much earlier. I was able to save my marriage, but not without a lot of heartache and turmoil. Dealing with a small problem before it becomes a huge problem is always the way to go. If it helps, you can read about the process we used to save our marriage on my blog at http://isavedmymarriage.com
Do you miss those sexy, curious, early days when you are newly in love? These 7 tips can sure help you to bring back and relive those good old days.
(1) Pump up the adrenaline
Adrenaline can act as an aphrodisiac for a committed relationship. It can inject some oomp into otherwise stale and ordinary days which tend to happen in a long-term relationship. When you stimulate your body, this will have a trickle down effect of stimulating both your mind and emotions.
Do something extraordinary with your partner. This will show your partner how much you care. Give bungee jumping, roller-coaster riding or watching horror movies, a try, if you dare. If you find that this is too extreme, you may consider horseback riding, go-karting, sampling exotic cuisines, enrolling for dancing or yoga classes or travelling to some exotic places together.
(2) Sexy talk
Whispering sweet words into his/her ears, sending sexy text messages to let your partner know he/she is on your mind when you are apart can increase the emotional connection between the both of you. Sexting is a great way for committed couples to flirt with each other and make each other smile. It is also a good way to build anticipation which is like mental foreplay that could lead to the physical kind, too.
(3) Encourage 2-way talking
It is essential to have a real conversation at least once a week. This should go beyond the day-to-day type of topics. Couples who communicate well with one another and share activities together are often more active in sex. Before spicing things up with toys or sexy lingerie, work on your communication skills.
Besides talking, you also need to know how to listen to keep the 2-way communication open. Pay attention to body language too. When you need your partner to do something or to make some changes, you package your requests in the form of compliment such as “I really enjoy very much when you for an evening walk to the park with me.” This will avoid the request from becoming like a complaint which can trigger defensive behavior.
Try to detach your emotions from the conversation. In times of strain these will be heightened which could lead to further conflict as you will be hypersensitive to remarks. If you are particularly upset about something, it will be better to vent out your frustration on paper rather than blurting it out. This will allow you to release any negative emotions as well as giving you the time and chance to organize your thoughts so that you can present your issue in a non-confrontational way.
(4) Show appreciation and support
Besides saying, “I love you”, do not forget to say “thank you” to show your appreciation for the nice, little things he/she did for you. Remember to give compliments to let your partner know you still find him/her physically and emotionally attractive. Volunteer to help out if you can, when your partner is overwhelmed with too many things on hand.
Such nice, little, thoughtful daily gestures can have a cumulative effect to strengthen the foundation of your relationship, reducing the chances of breaking up when the relationship is under stress by some unexpected happenings. The wonderful thing is these acts of consideration and appreciation do not cost you any.
(5) More kisses
Do you still remember those days when you were dating him/her, you often kissed each other when you met or when you were about to leave? Besides being an act of intimacy, the way you kiss can make or break a woman’s feelings for you. Kissing becomes a forgotten act for many couples in long-term relationships, unless this occurs during foreplay. Couples who kiss regularly tend to have sex more often. Most important, you kiss not just for the sake of initiating sex, but because you love and enjoy the feeling of kissing him/her.
(6) Maintain eye contact when having sex
Eye contact immediately raises the intimacy level of any sexual act. Closing your eyes can sometimes send the wrong message that you are only present physically, but not emotionally or spiritually. Keeping your eyes open and looking directly into him/her reassures your partner that it is he/she that is turning you on in the particular moment.
(7) Trying new things in the bedroom
Most people would love their partner to suggest something new to spice things up. Couples tend to stuck into a few things that they know and stop experimenting. But the brain is the biggest sex organ and any time you try something new, you are stimulating the brain’s natural desire for novelty.
Loving two men at once inevitably means having to make an agonizing decision. Who do you choose – or should you walk away from both?
Who should Bella choose? This is the question the Twilight saga revolves around – and it’s difficult not to get swept away by this fanciful romance. You are either for Team Jacob or Team Edward.
But as much as love triangles make riveting film fodder, they are usually a great deal less romantic and more painful in reality. There’s no denying that you are betraying both loves – and possibly yourself. How do you decide who is the right man for you – or whether you are better on your own for now?
It’s certainly not uncommon for a woman to find herself loving two men. The reason she is drawn to two men is often that she has grown apart from her long-term partner; now she can’t decide between them because each satisfies desires the other doesn’t. Conversely, in both relationships certain needs go unfulfilled. She wants both men for what they bring to her life.
Stereotypically, women seek emotional comfort and men seek physical comfort when they experience an unmet need or a void. These roles are changing, however, and some women have a need for the thrill of passion and sex outside their partnership. While revenge can occasionally be the stimulus, many women turn to another man because they feel lonely and neglected at home. They seek affirmation that they’re still desirable and attractive.
Whatever the motivating factor, it is unlikely that both men are loved with equal intensity. You may feel more for your new partner because it’s a newer relationship that’s still in the ‘honeymoon’ phase, and while you may be cognizant of why you chose to be in the older relationship, you may not feel it on the emotional level any longer. But the original relationship is usually based on reality, whereas your crush on the new man could be due to idealism and enchantment.
An emotional or physical affair is thrilling thanks to its illicit nature but once the instant gratification wears off and you reflect on your actions, you’re faced with remorse, guilt and self-loathing. You could be in total conflict with your beliefs and value system. Of course your primary defense would be to blame your partner for the situation.
This roller coaster of emotions can cause psychosomatic symptoms such as insomnia, headaches and even ulcers. You could also experience wild mood swings ranging from despair to manic excitement.
You may have tried to sever ties with the ‘other man’ only to find that, despite your best intentions, you are hooked on the attention and excitement he brings to your life. You may not have resolved the issues in your primary relationship, so the reasons you sought solace outside your relationship are still present. Then, each time you attempt to cut ties with the other man but allow him back into your life, you perceive yourself as weak and the self-loathing begins again, perpetuating the vicious cycle.
Until you understand the real reasons why you were open to an illicit relationship, you will continue to be drawn to a dual love life. This will invariably have a negative impact on your original relationship – it may turn into something that you are both just existing in, while your new partner may want more over time if he is unattached. You may then be forced to choose. But how do you choose? The most effective way is to put your true thoughts and feelings on paper.
But don’t make it a list of pros and cons – create a journal focusing on your original relationship. Include how you met, the qualities you fell in love with, how you saw your future together. Then evaluate how either of you diverged from this path. Also reflect on the real reasons you chose to be with him. For example, perhaps it’s his character and warmth, or the emotional or financial security he provides. Look at whether this fits in with who you are right now and how you see your life going forward. Then create a journal about your new relationship. Your decision should find you.
If you decide to rebuild your primary relationship, it’s going to take honesty. Both of you are responsible for making your relationship space sacred again. Understand what your personal voids and values are and learn how to stretch to meet the other’s needs. Bring back the romance and fun, and use this opportunity to rediscover your partner.
If you choose your new love, know that you will have to face any unresolved inner conflict, and that the same dynamics you faced in your previous relationship will probably present themselves again. Often suspicion sets in when needs are not being met in the new relationship – one of you may worry that the other is cheating again. Your infatuation may crumble and you will be faced with the inevitable reality and challenges of a new relationship.
If, when evaluating the qualities you love in each person, you find that the fulfillment of your needs is split between them, it could be that neither is right for you. There’s nothing stopping you from walking away from both people.
It may be important to be on your own and work on yourself. Once you’re happier within, the person who’ll complement you should be drawn into your life.
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